living in moments…
My friend Jane Anne Davis had arrived from Atlanta hours before me and was on her lonesome. I messaged her periodically to see how she was faring and to report my ETA. We hadn’t seen each other in over a year and a half and in the meantime, Jane had kicked not one, but two types of cancers’ ass! This was going to be our little celebratory break from real-life and we were anticipating lots of laughter and downright silliness! She was a little concerned because she had tried to make friendly overtures, but was feeling like a wallflower at a jr. high dance. I arrived at the hotel and promptly went to our room. I couldn’t figure out why Jane wasn’t answering my insistent knocks and so, I called her. We both figured out pretty quickly why I wasn’t standing in front of the door she had just opened and I was thankful no one was home in room 7002 and then drug my travel disheveled self down the hall to the elevators, across the lobby, past the gift shop, desk, casino, buffet, snack shop, and onto the elevator that would take me to room 702. This time when I knocked Jane answered and I dragged my huge suitcase that had lost a leg somewhere in the airport into the room, I let go of the suitcase that promptly fell over cuz…missing leg and gave Jane a big hug!
“We are going to push each other to talk to everyone!”, I pronounced. “We are going to make sure we have fun!”
And we did! When folks walked by us the next morning, we tried to guess who was there for the convention. We decided plaid was a fairly predictable clue and if you were wearing plaid/tartan sorry about your luck, but we were talking to you! Some folks weren’t too hard to figure out. Their Outlander and Through the Stones matching T-shirts were dead giveaways. We met a lovely couple who had never read the books, but were here because of the TV series and had the costumes to prove it!
We joked that her husband looked enough like Ron Moore to be his brother! We then talked with a lovely lady who was a retired jr. high science teacher. She was sporting a fun vest chock full of Outlander pins and patches. She told us she loved Outlander’s historical aspects and that she spent a lot of her time volunteering. She shared with us that her team (the Hoosier Honeypots) had a plan to win the trivia contest and therefore, dinner with Terry Dresbach! She showed us a copy of a book of questions she had created and had been studying. I think she said there were 800 questions! I’m not sure if her group won, but she looked like she was going to have a blast anyway! They had a rooting section with signs!
Eventually, we made our way to lunch where I happened upon folks I talk to very frequently on Twitter, but had never met! Sitting with Cyndi Hayes was Carole Braun and her friend Sandy Dawar and Jill Shirley. I just kept looking at these folks I felt I knew! It was a bit surreal. I told Jill she looked awfully familiar to me and I kept feeling like we had met before. We talked for a little bit about attending the event and I happened to mention going to NYC Tartan Week. Suddenly, Jill jumped up and hugged me as she realized we had stood beside each other at the Tartan Week parade! Small world isn’t it when you are an Outlander fan? I had a lovely time getting to know Jill and listening to her stories about meeting Ron Moore at the ball park in California! Meeting likeminded folks and my Twitter friends were some of the great moments that TTS afforded me.
ME AND JILL LAUGHING JUST BECAUSE
We walked over to the convention center to register and peruse the goods for sale at Beardsley’s Trading Post. I found a sweet pair of thistle earrings to match the necklace my husband bought me last year! There was a great mixture of items including a place to swap books!
The next big event of the day was the Trivia contest! Jane Anne and I had decided that we were just playing for kicks and giggles (even though I AM pretty bad-ass at trivia because I seem to know a lot of worthless and obscure shite) so, when I saw Mother Hildegarde’s Novices was looking for four members that just wanted to have fun we asked to join! What a great bunch of ladies! They evidently knew what was up because they came with decorations and gift bags and some food! Buton was laid in the center of our table on a swathe of plaid and our gift bags included a Starbucks card, chocolates and some homemade cherry bounce! I think I’ve made some new Outlander friends in Terri Somgynari, Sandra Hicks and Carla Jasinski!
I was just biting into a piece of gifted shortbread when I heard my name being called. It was fellow blogger Connie Verzak and I stood up and braced myself for the hug she had warned me I was going to get! And, the answer to your question is yes, she is just as funny in person along with being warm, kind, and wicked smart. This was one of my favorite moments! Just sitting and laughing with Connie and her friends was one of the highlights of my weekend. She is truly a unique person and I loved meeting her!
CONNIE AND I
Mother Hildegarde’s Novices laughed our way through the first round of trivia and then we heard some clapping. On stage stood Terry Dresbach wishing everyone a good time. I have to say meeting Terry was “THE” moment for me. Like a lot of other fans, I’ve been interacting with Terry on Twitter for quite a while now. She is just who I thought she was kind, gracious, beautiful, funny, wise, and talented. The woman has confidence and personality to spare! Terry went from table to table greeting everyone. I’m sure she could feel the love and wanted to make sure everyone knew it was reciprocated.
JANE ANNE, TERRY AND ME
Trivia was fun and challenging! We headed back to our rooms at the end of the night feeling like we had been part of a moment of love for Diana Gabaldon’s story. A lot of people knew a lot about those books. Me thinks perhaps we have all read them a few times!
The next day started early, I think I was too excited to sleep for long! We headed out to get breakfast and then find our first workshop class. We found a seat around the big fireplace in the north tower lobby and wondered how this was going to work. A large group of us were here to “talk” about Outlander. The lady who was leading the class was a neighbor of Debbie Ford’s. She said she was taking credit for introducing Debbie to the books and therefore planting the seed that lead to TTS! I noticed that she had what appeared to be a list of discussion topics in her hand. It was a fairly large list and I once again admired the attention to detail and thought that went into preparing for this conference. I had to laugh because she only got to ask one maybe two questions because if you give an Outlander fan an inch to talk about Outlander we’ll take a mile! It was fascinating learning about how folks found the books and what the story and series had contributed to their lives. As per usual, we agreed on our love for the series, but EVERYONE had different ideas about how successfully those books had been transferred to the screen. I think we all agreed to disagree and despite our different opinions, I left feeling part of a very large, diverse group of folks who were passionate about this story!
The next class for us was the improv group. There were other classes available that included everything from whiskey tasting (at 8:30 in the morning) to sword fighting! I was starting to feel a bit nervous as it was getting closer to time for my very first press conference. I asked Jane for a few minutes to gather my nerves and she went ahead. I sat in the lobby going over my questions and testing my tape recorder. I heard a group of people behind me discussing the show and books and looked over to see several men in ties talking to a lady who was gushing about how if they loved the show they needed to read the books! I checked the name of the room I was supposed to be in for the press conference for about the fifth time and decided I was as prepared as I was ever going to be and headed in for the comedy show. As I was speaking to Jane, the troupe came into the room. It was the men in ties from the lobby who called themselves “Guys In Ties”. They were great and made sure to let everyone know they had watched the show and were addicted. They asked the audience for help with the improv topics and we are a sick bunch, LOL! They seemed a bit taken back and I loved it! This comedic moment was just what I needed. After it was over, Jane headed for the Scottish themed lunch and I to the press conference. If you missed it here is my blog on that conference (link).
Loved the quilt presented to Terry by the Bonnie Beasties fan club after the press conference. Deann Roberts shared that they have previously created quilts for Sam Heughan and Cait Balfe and their group wanted to create one in appreciation of Ron and Terry. Squares with Outlander themes and messages to Terry and Ron were sent from all over the world and then stitched together and quilted. I overheard one of their group members say they wanted to “cover them in kindness” and I thought that was so sweet.
Soon everyone filed into the ballroom and found a seat for Terry’s talk on Saturday afternoon. It was perfect. She just sat down and shared. In this moment, people felt like they had gotten to know her a bit better and found her be funny, genuine, and approachable. She said she understood that the fans were coming from a place of love. That all that she had seen was about love. And, I have to say, everyone I talked to loved her. In fact, I asked some attendees to share their perceptions and I’d like to share a few of their responses!
Kristen Leigh Stiner: I thought her talk was amazing!! The way she lit up speaking about her husband and children warmed my soul!! If I had a do-over I would want to thank her for being such a strong and powerful woman!! She is truly a champion for us all yet is so very humble!! I loved her before but now she is one of my favorite people!!
Terri Somgynari : I absolutely loved how she got all emotional and teary-eyed when she talked about Ron and her children!
It was the best part..knowing how much she loves them!
Gina Kutter: Terry allows us to see the real person and real life of our favorite costume designer! She draws us in to the Outlander family with her insights and tidbits! She embodies that Outlander truly is all about love!
Mary Alberg Faber: She is so funny and warm. The thing that struck me is how much she seemed to enjoy being there, and with us. Her attitute is inspiritional. Just watching the joy in her face when talking about Ron, the show, the stars, etc. gives me joy, in return. It was like talking to your best friend. (Oh yeah, she’s a fan – maybe a bit of a closet fan; not quite at the totally obsessed stage.)
Janice Schurr: I, too, am not a “fangirl”. I don’t order t-hirts, or jewelry, or any of that stuff, although I’ve made donations to charities. I’ve never attended a fan gathering. But, this was more than that – it truly felt like a gathering of friends. Like a giant bookclub, where we all could express our opinions and share our love of the show and the guests. Plus, Debbie Belshause Ford and her crew made it seem personal – not just something put on by an organization or PR force, but something done by true fans. I think Terry’s chat fit the group so well. It was like sitting around your living room chatting with a friend, not a “canned speech”. And Grant, with his lovely sense of humor, was so personable and seemed to so like being there, despite his adventures in travel!
Thrynn Kirby: Was incredibly flattered to see her put as much energy and attention into sharing herself and our wonderful gathering as she does with everything . This was no fly by visit. This was one HUGE HUG from a fabulous lady. I am a fan ( read as one who loves) Ron is right. She does make the sun come out!
Tina Schröder Eakins: I loved that Terry SAW us. Not just as a group of fans, but as individuals. I really felt she was there for a chat, sitting on a chair, rather than a speaker.
Tammy Petree Proux: I was unsure what my opinion of her was before the convention. I just know that I loved the previous convention and the fun we had. I trusted in Debbie Belshause Ford to bring great people to everyone (along with great times). I was impressed with how normal, like all of us Terry seems to be. She was extremely approachable. I loved that she came and mingled with all of us during trivia competition; I know we were all caught by surprise. She has a normal relationship with her husband. I enjoyed her relating of stories of her family; the stories of Ron and his Disney love. There are so many things. I imagine she has some interesting views on politics, but it was good that it was left out of this arena. (Though I would have loved to discuss with her as I’m sure we’re on the same page lol.)
Susan Hundt: I really appreciated her candor and her insights on fandom, especially coming to the conclusion that it is all about love.
Helen Kratzer Lyness: The instant connection we find with others at this event is amazing! Meet a stranger walking along with you in the hallway or in the elevator and they are immediate friends as you begin to talk about all the things you have in common. “Where are you from?” “Are you a book reader, or a show watcher?” When did YOU discover the books?” “Who turned you on to the books, or the show?” “Do you love Dougal or hate him?” What is your favorite part of Book One?” and so on . . . we have a new friend, connected in one moment, now friends forever! Thru the Stones does that for us!
I think that Terry has been adopted into the fandom.
SAT NIGHT WAS ALRIGHT!
Saturday night was the culminating event and we were treated to a Parisian dinner!
photo credit Becky Wiley
Each item on the menu had a connection to the books. I really liked the Chicken Dargentan that perhaps the Countess St. Germain liked! People wandered the room in costumes from the various time periods in the books. This was so great! There was such a huge variety of costume choices! Some folks were all out Parisian!
Others chose Scotland and a salute to the Jacobites…
Others were rocking 1700’s Scotland, the 1940’s, and 1968. I was impressed and I think Terry was too!
photo credits to Becky Wiley (aren’t they terrific!)
The creativity Terry’s designs inspired felt like a love letter to her art and talent! It was hard to pick, but I have to say I had my favorites. Cyndi Hayes WWII nurse Claire walked around the banquet swilling champagne and making us all smile in delight!
Carole Braun’s version of Frank was a hoot and I loved how he kept trying to keep “drinking” Claire in line.
photo credits Becky Wiley
Yvonne Cloonan as Wee Roger with his biscuits in hand made us all clap in happy recognition.
There were a couple of renditions of the bar suit
and I loved the “deed” lady and 1968 Claire in trench coat and head scarf!
Missy Hermes as the deed of sasine lady and Julie Chenoweth Tierstriep as Claire
Terry shared on Twitter a delightful pair of sneakers done up by Karen Boilard as a homage to the red shoes and an 88 year old fan dressed as Claire who had captured her heart!
Every time you turned around, someone’s ingenuity and attention to detail caused you to drop your jaw, laugh and smile. I’m so grateful for this bunch! They really added to the spirit of the convention and the fun.
THIS MAN WAS SERIOUSLY ENTERTAINING
Grant O’Rourke was the keynote speaker and I have to say I haven’t been that entertained by a “speech” in a long time. I can’t think of a moment that lagged. I found myself mesmerized and leaning forward to hear what funny, self-deprecating, and delightful thing he would say next. I think we were all moved by his definition of what it was like to be a Dad to his “wee man”. “It’s like falling in love everyday”, he explained. His description of his talking Star Trek with Ron Moore was priceless. His failed joke had me laughing so hard I was crying. The silence, he added, in response to his comment was so deafening that even crickets backed out of the room. I would chortle about this at random moments throughout the rest of my trip.
photo credit Becky Wiley
There were some charming moments in the Q&A with Grant and Terry and the evening was rounded out with a meet and greet and dessert.
photo credit Heather Frey
THANKS FOR THE MEMORIES
I had some difficulty getting home (many of us did). It snowed! I said goodbye to Jane and thanked her for a lovely weekend and headed for the airport at 8:30 am.
At about one, I saw Jane again…at the airport where I got a very spicy Bloody Mary and we “punch drunk” tweeted other people who were “stuck in Iowa”.
Even Grant got delayed and ended up going home with Debbie Ford. I loved the idea of him spending time with a Midwest family and giggled at the image of him riding in a big four-wheel drive truck (they had to talk him out of climbing into the back!). After several cancelled flights and sitting on the tarmac until they cleaned up the birds Jane’s plane had hit, I finally made it home. I pulled into my driveway in Ohio around 2:10 am tired, but full of the joy of living some great moments.
P.S. Please, I’d love to hear about your favorite moments in the comments!